Same-Sex 'Marriage' Isn't Inevitable, It's Just Not Novel Anymore
I have four sons under the age of 8. My oldest always has his mind on alert for new information. He's a sponge that I can see filling his mental dictionary at all times. Whether it's a word in his Lego Ninjago book or one from our daily devotions together or just one he hears from the pulpit at our church, rare is the day that he does not politely interrupt with a, "Dad, what's that word mean?"
His constant feeding of meaning followed by my two-year old's less eloquent, "What's that?" every 5 minutes makes you look at the world differently. And it's to these guys that I wonder what the world will be like for them in adulthood. If the winds of prevailing thought are to be believed, it will be a world that has settled the issue of multi-lettered sexuality (LGBTQ...) and same-sex 'marriage' because, as we're told, "it's inevitable."
Indeed, hardly a day goes by that we do not hear that proclaimed, especially for the younger generation, as they usually tack on - as if our youth are to be the source of all wisdom for society to follow.
It strikes me that same-sex marriage (and the entire lot of the effort to normalize abnormal sexual behavior) is not inevitable, it's just lost its cache.
Homosexuality, and the rest of the letters, just isn't novel. They're normal. Daily. Routine. Unobtrusive. And generally in the category of, "so-what?!" We've been fed such a steady diet of, "it's perfectly normal" that our consciences are seared on the matter.
As for the "young people" these days, they've been fed spoonfuls of abnormal normalcy for decades from teachers, pop icons, comic book heroes, movies, TV shows, politicians, and even hipster theologians who do a disgrace to Orthodoxy in the name of approachability, being 'missional,' and church growth. For them - for all of us - abnormal sexual behavior has just lost its novelty.
This is by no means a concession towards inevitability. Rather, it is a reminder for extraordinary vigilance. Just because something has lost its new car smell does not mean that it must be writ large over public policy. In fact, it is when something becomes so largely familiar that we may have the best opportunity to evaluate its potential benefits and consequences. Familiarity sucks the winds out of the sails of emotionalism and impetuous policymaking. It's a reminder to proceed slowly with eyes wide-open.
So, the next time someone tells you that same-sex marriage is inevitable, gently push back and suggest that maybe it's not inevitable; it's just not novel anymore. Rather, it's real, we see it daily and understand it working around us and recognize the opportunity for a dialog and discussion that could lead to public policy decisions (not to mention daily and church life decisions) that will tend toward greater emphasis on human flourishing. Suggest that the popularity of a thing is not sufficient to warrant abandoning the need to evaluate its ups and downs.
And, just because it seems inevitable, maybe its not. Maybe we need to explain to our kids how formerly 'inevitable' ideas like Beta, VHS tapes, and the bag phone ultimately lost their novelty too.